If you were asked what the most difficult relationship you’ve ever had is (or was), would you answer immediately or would you have to think?
Could you pick just one or is there an answer for each brick of the building blocks of your life? Are all things sooo relative that it depends on the day, the hour, the minute, the question is asked?
Doesn’t that, in and of itself, pose another question? Like “Why is this such a complicated question?”
I suppose one could say this isn’t a fair question. All relationships have issues. How can we judge which is the most difficult when they are all so different and, at times, can be that difficult?
I think for me, the answer is simple. Or, simply complicated? I don’t know. I just know this…
…all of our relationships are difficult because the most important relationship is the most difficult.
The one with yourself.
Until you get right with you, straight with you, honest with you, on-board with you, to the heart of you…
Ever wonder if it would be a better life; an easier life?
One might think so
Just imagine…our world with its indeterminable amount of 50/50 questions
answered in just one of two ways
Could that ever work?
Would we want it to?
Ever wonder?
Ask yourself 5…just 5…questions, whose answers at the time, helped shape your life. I am imagining these to be the toughest that we must ask ourselves at every critical juncture as we travel our respective journeys.
Then, think about how your life would (or wouldn’t) be different had you only had the option to answer in black or white.
I chose my 5 questions carefully. I won’t share the questions because we have each traveled our own paths, but what I will say is this…because of the ‘no gray’ constriction, my life would be vastly different.
In fact, my life would be no life at all.
You see, even though I had 5 questions, I only needed the ONE to change my life forever. At the time, if we’d been living in a black or white, yes or no, now or never world, my journey would have ended.
So, if you do ever wonder, you really should ask this ONE question first:
Is it worth it? The anxiety, ambiguity, doubt, pain, confusion, fear…and on and on.
The short answer, YES.
The long answer, YES because it is all temporary. What hurts now may not hurt tomorrow, but if it does, we can fix it. Your fears and doubts can be conquered if you work at it. The best motivators in life are doubt and fear…knowledge is the key to overcoming doubt and action is the key to overcoming fear.
What of the love, family, adventure, learning, teaching, helping, guiding…and on and on.
Have you ever walked behind a gray-haired, old person, limping with their cane, and thought “I don’t ever want that to be me”? Or watched from a distance as a gray-haired and bent old man, leans in and pushes his white-haired and wrinkly old sweetheart in a wheelchair, not noticing that he’s whispering to her as they travel, and thought…”I don’t want to live to be that old”?
If so, think of all you’ll loose in not living long and large enough to not earn that glorious CROWN of GRAY! Think of all the choices you’ve made to extend that life, only to look upon the gray, white, and silver generation with pity and sadness, or to some, even disgust.
I know, when I look at a face like the one of that man in the picture above, that he is someone I want talk to, listen to, laugh with, maybe even cry with. His face speaks to me of life yet to be lived.
His face says to me “I Wonder”!
THAT’S the face I want.
That’s the face I’m working on beneath my ever changing CROWN of black, white, and gray!
Last post was a week until… This post is a week gone since… In the blink of an eye it’s over * Last post I showed you where… This post I’m showing you why… In the click of a button it’s forever
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1.) Human Fun & Games
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His and Hers
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2.) Nature Au Naturale
“Will ya looky there Junior…them’s called bipeds. If’n it t’were huntin’ season, I’d show ya how to cook ’em real good in lots o’butter!”
“Hey Ground Walker! Can’t you read?? You can’t park here! Just look at ’em Ralph…think they own the joint!’
“STOP THAT I SAID!!!”
“Good grief, can’t fly ANYWHERE around you bitches!”
“Oooooh, look at that jet Pops!”
“That ain’t no jet kids…that’s your cousin George”
“Ma? Where ya going Ma?”
“Louise, get back here!”
“No worries Pops…I’ll get her.”
“Jeez Louise…can’t a fella visit his relatives?”
“Hey Georgie…you can come visit me. I’m free as a bird tonight. Dinner?”
“Whassat? Let me just clean my ears, thought you invited me to dinner.”
“Well, alrighty then! I’ll just hop, skip, and a….
…juuuuuuuump on over sweet thang!”
Random man / bird fly by
Random man caused fly away
“I AM…’nuff said”
“Oh he’s SUCH a show off!”
“Hey…if I got it flaunt it right?”
One…
Two…
Three…
Dinner!”
“Really? He’s this desperate? I’m BAIT not dinner! The bird brain!!”
heeheehee
Heeeeey……..
…that tickled ma belly!
“I don’t get the whole beach thing Dorrie, do you?”
“No, me either Handsome. Why hang out in all that sandy muck when you can lounge around with me surrounded by all this love stuff?”
“Gee, I wonder if he’s noticed I’ve picked out the wedding bouquets? Oh Handsooooome? Wanna play Peek a Love-Dove?”
“Handsome? Handsome? Hmmmm, I guess he noticed…that CHICKEN!”
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3.) Art…Is Where You Feel It
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Fa Dayz
The Serenade
Dune Seating
Local art by Man
Lone Daff
It doesn’t just collect dust!
Doo Dads
Art of a different hue
Whatchamacallits
Plucked from the OK Coral
It tries
A Tree with a Yeow
Lap of Lux
Local art by Arachnid
The famous Yellow Rope Fish
Sea for Two
Lost in the Sand
The Shell Game
I’ll leave the light on for ya
Sharp Dresser
Sun Kissed
Picnic Poles
Hammock Prone
Sea for Two
Pole Dancing
Center Stage
Could he – Wood he?
Shellmates
50 Shades of Grey
Crabby
Brushed Off
I don’t give a Twig
Mission Scrubbed
Stark Contrast
Like I said…Art is where you feel it
* Thanks for coming along…I do hope you enjoyed.
Next time it’s sand and surf, then worshiping the heavens
Like riding a bike…once you learn how…you don’t forget.
Choose not to, sure. But you don’t forget.
When I was a girl I used to walk everywhere. I would stomp with purpose in my Wonder Bread bag covered shoes to school in the winters, hoping to get the bags off and stowed before the LL Bean boot-wearing kids could see them.
I’d march, like a good little soldier, the kiddie version of a 50 yard mile to church on Sunday, fiddling with the all too popular, bang-holding, enormous, white, clip-on bow my mother insisted I wear. One that made my hair sit pregnant and waiting to pop its clip from atop my head, and in doing so, birthing my bangs back onto my forehead where they belonged! The post clip-on years saw my 9 to 14 year old self, stomp the yard the longest 1/4 mile known to adolescents…especially on Catechism Saturdays, where God’s own wicked witch of the north ruled with an iron fist!
The better walking days were when I was old enough to sashay and glide; take my time meandering and strolling, to the place where all good things happen. Overstreet. Which, for those who don’t know, is our far north yank-speak for Downtown. I could spend my fifty cent allowance buying nickle candy at the Economy Store, making sure to save the quarter I needed for the Sat’dy matinee a couple doors down at the Savoy. And often times, I’d even have enough to stop at The Candy Kitchen for a creamie on the way home, if that’s what the gang wanted to do.
In the pre-bicycle summers, walking to the pool was the equivalent my now-self walking 5 miles on the huff and puff scale. I’ve actually checked since then and know now it was just a hair shy of a mile…but it was the last half that was a killer. Or so it seemed at the time. And looking back…having a bike didn’t improve that hill any…not one lick! I don’t think I managed to stay ON the bike the whole way up but once, and only then because I rode that hill like it was a Donkey Kong trail, without the ladders! Back and forth, back and forth, back and forth. It was easier to push it (or leave it home). Besides, kids pushing bicycles up that hill was just the way of it…until the 10-speed arrived. YeeHaw…what an invention. Not that I ever had one, but boy could those kids ride that hill like it was nothing!
Our’s was a small town; a good, walking town for a kid when you come right down to it. Nestled in a little valley surrounded by the Green Mountains; a college town without acting like a college town because we didn’t really sport the kinds of places college kids like to hang. And those we did have, the cadets managed to get thrown out of more often than not, so it was really just us town folk most of the time.
I loved walking that town, and I know it’s from walking that town that I feel so drawn to the beauty in everyday things that I often take pictures of. Imagine walking down the street where you live, and everywhere you look, there’s a mountain, or a brook, or a river. Walk to the end of that street and you can chose to go straight over the footbridge, crossing the river towards downtown and what adventures lie there. Or left over the tracks towards one of your schools or a shortcut to your friend’s house, the side street tree lined and leaf covered. Or better yet, turn right and walk to where the pavement ends and the dirt begins. Fields full of wild flowers and cows; promises of swimming holes and tire swings, and mountains as far as the eye can see.
All the time looking up. All the time thinking…I want to live in those mountains. I want to hear the brooks run and the smell the spring mud; feel the snow tickle as it falls on my face, and crunch under my feet for as long as I live.
I no longer live in that town.
But that town lives in me. I take it with me everywhere, as I take all those things I fell in love with there too.
It’s the peace I reach for when I can find none where I am.
No matter where I hang my hat, my heart remains there…in my little town. Where walking the streets is not a profession…it’s a path to connection. To God, to community, to nature, but most importantly, to oneself.
When I need it, I put on my boots and hit the road and remember. I remember to keep my ears open, my eyes wide, and my mind quiet. I remember to be thankful for some of the absolute best memories of my life…and more so, to be thankful for giving me the mountains my mind ran away to; where I’d sit under a glorious burnt orange tree while it bathed in the red-gold light of a late fall sun…for the absolute worst of my life.
The little town where I learned to walk; to never take for granted the beauty in the simple things; to accept with gratitude, the gifts it gave me every day; and learned too, the true understanding of what it is…the power…to have a place to call home.
My town, where I learned to walk
(photo by Carol of Carol’s View of New England on blogspot)
It’s been almost 3 months since I last laid fingers on this spot and quite frankly, I’m stumped as to why. It’s not as though nothing has been going on in my life; not like I couldn’t have found something to regale you with. But I didn’t, so there it is. What to do, what to do?
My Quandry
It’s me and not what’s going on in my life, that is the…
queller of quills that once quivered in quickness as they quilted quality quarters in the quest of her quair; chock-full of the queenly and quintessentially queer, the quacky and quaggy and quixotically quaint.
It is me and me alone who can say…
quiescence remains in this quaffer’s quaich. What’s quashing that quorum of quarrels, quibs, and quips that querimoniously queue up in the quar of my gray- matter quag; quit of its quant?
As it is also me, the once…
quartermaster, now turned querulous quester, who is lost in quassation. A quat, a quidam, a word-quean, bereft of her quean-dom; whose quiritation quickens toward quotidian.
Quit?
Qualify?
Quantify?
Quiver?
Quash?
Quell?
No
Hence the exercise in the little used and under appreciated
Is it possible that I’m a dreamer?
Do I spend too much time with my head in the clouds?
Or my nose in the air?
Or my eyes on the sky?
Maybe, just maybe.
Because when I was getting photos together for Ailsa’sTravel Theme Challenge theme BELOW, I realized how much time I spend looking up and how lucky I am I haven’t fallen over and broken my nose!
But then again, perhaps it’s not so much dreaming [though that’s okay] as what I like to think of as paying attention, seeing the whole picture, taking stock in everyday life, seeing beauty in the ordinary…
Right?
Oh alright. I’m a dreamer then and damned proud of it!
So let’s see what a dreamer with her head in the clouds, nose in the air, eyes on the skies, is all dreamy about then.
And if you are a dreamer too…would you see what she sees when the lens go vertical?
The Tate Museum in London from an ant’s perspective:
A Lloyd Wright design as seem from this lowly architecture lover on the ground:
Reflections are just reflections until they become art. Can you see the cranes? Construction never looked so good!:
It would be shameful it no one paid attention to the details of something as innocuous as ceilings…but when they look like this, it would be a crime!:
Bridges are a favorite of mine, and the Tobin in Boston is no exception. This, however, was taken on the fly and yes (shhh) I was driving! Thank goodness for sun roofs 🙂 Oh, and thank you God that I’m still here (dumb, I know):
Street light art? If you’re in London, the answer is a resounding YES!:
It’s a bird, it’s a plane, it’s a bird, it’s a ….yup, like that:
It’s a religious experience!:
Clouds are the ultimate source for wonder and awe from below:
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